No, this isn't a post about bowling or pinball machines. Read My Pins is the title of a new book by Secty Madeleine Albright about her magnificent collection of "brooches" that have helped start many a diplomatic conversation. I first included her technique for "broaching" subjects in What Do I Say Next? and in the next several books including How To Work a Room pp 175-6. Because she so brilliantly gave people (and foreign diplomats) something to talk about, her pins opened up dialogue. Every photo I have seen of her featured an interesting, beautiful accessory usually worn on her left side. Of course, I concluded she had to be right-handed because that's what we do.
Madam Secretary has been on her book tour and was featured on the Sunday Morning Show which was so interesting. I can't wait to see her collection when I am in New York! But, this post is not about jewelry. It's a lesson in what we can do to make others comfortable, open the conversation with small talk and move to bigger issues. So, wear that fun tie, scarf, pin or brooch.
Here's the kicker: when we see someone with a great tie, pin, scarf or necklace, know that what they're saying non-verbally is "Come on over and talk to me." Be sure to take them up on the "invitation" to chat.
Several years ago I attended her talk at the 92nd St Y with my friend, Arlynn Greenbaum. Her brilliance was dazzling; her candor refreshing and her information was illuminating. After her book signing I approached her and mentioned that I'd seen her on The Daily Show twice and asked a non-intellectual question about Jon Stewart. She said he was also one of the smartest interviewers. When I told her that I have included her and her brooches in my books, she said she was working on a book on her pins. She made me feel in the loop. What a gift she has for engaging others!
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